Since Alyssa is the one who mostly demands of my attention, I've come up with a plan of bathing together. I get to have my much-awaited bath while bonding with her (and bathing her too since she refused to be bathed by our yaya now).
So the other day, while Alyssa and I were in the shower, Raya knocked wanting to join us. I don't really have a problem with this except that our bathroom is a really small one. It would be impossible to have any cleaning done when there's a crowd inside. I told Raya that we can bathe together the next day.
However, the next day we all forgot about it. Raya took a bath as soon as she got home from school and she remembered what we were suppose to do only when she saw me and Alyssa drying up together. What I didn't expect was her reaction --- she burst into tears. I realized there and then that she wanted to spend time with me too. And as usual, it made me feel bad.
So now, inasmuch as I would want to soak in the waters on this warm day, I will wait until Raya gets home from school today so we can do it together. Such is the life of a mom of four. But I will not trade it with anyone. :-)
I can certainly relate to what you are going through with the older siblings with a new baby at home. I only have one to take care of but we are having difficulty managing it because I think he had us all to himself for six long years and now suddenly the attention is not only on him anymore. His teachers told us he is manifesting some bad behaviors in school since the baby arrived.
ReplyDeleteHi Ann! Ang hirap no? No matter how hard we try to prepare them for the coming sibling, they will still feel some resentment one way or the other. Sometimes they don't even understand why they feel this way. Two important ways for us to handle it --- expect it and accept it. Then communicate and try to spend time with your son. It helps to make him involved in taking care of the baby. Good luck!
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